diff --git a/connection_manager.go b/connection_manager.go
index 900db07..ce11f19 100644
--- a/connection_manager.go
+++ b/connection_manager.go
@@ -231,7 +231,7 @@ func (n *connectionManager) migrateRelayUsed(oldhostinfo, newhostinfo *HostInfo)
 			index = existing.LocalIndex
 			switch r.Type {
 			case TerminalType:
-				relayFrom = newhostinfo.vpnIp
+				relayFrom = n.intf.myVpnIp
 				relayTo = existing.PeerIp
 			case ForwardingType:
 				relayFrom = existing.PeerIp
@@ -256,7 +256,7 @@ func (n *connectionManager) migrateRelayUsed(oldhostinfo, newhostinfo *HostInfo)
 			}
 			switch r.Type {
 			case TerminalType:
-				relayFrom = newhostinfo.vpnIp
+				relayFrom = n.intf.myVpnIp
 				relayTo = r.PeerIp
 			case ForwardingType:
 				relayFrom = r.PeerIp
diff --git a/e2e/handshakes_test.go b/e2e/handshakes_test.go
index d02a1a7..022b5a3 100644
--- a/e2e/handshakes_test.go
+++ b/e2e/handshakes_test.go
@@ -610,6 +610,110 @@ func TestRehandshakingRelays(t *testing.T) {
 	t.Logf("relayControl hostinfos got cleaned up!")
 }
 
+func TestRehandshakingRelaysPrimary(t *testing.T) {
+	// This test is the same as TestRehandshakingRelays but one of the terminal types is a primary swap winner
+	ca, _, caKey, _ := newTestCaCert(time.Now(), time.Now().Add(10*time.Minute), []*net.IPNet{}, []*net.IPNet{}, []string{})
+	myControl, myVpnIpNet, _, _ := newSimpleServer(ca, caKey, "me     ", net.IP{10, 0, 0, 128}, m{"relay": m{"use_relays": true}})
+	relayControl, relayVpnIpNet, relayUdpAddr, relayConfig := newSimpleServer(ca, caKey, "relay  ", net.IP{10, 0, 0, 1}, m{"relay": m{"am_relay": true}})
+	theirControl, theirVpnIpNet, theirUdpAddr, _ := newSimpleServer(ca, caKey, "them   ", net.IP{10, 0, 0, 2}, m{"relay": m{"use_relays": true}})
+
+	// Teach my how to get to the relay and that their can be reached via the relay
+	myControl.InjectLightHouseAddr(relayVpnIpNet.IP, relayUdpAddr)
+	myControl.InjectRelays(theirVpnIpNet.IP, []net.IP{relayVpnIpNet.IP})
+	relayControl.InjectLightHouseAddr(theirVpnIpNet.IP, theirUdpAddr)
+
+	// Build a router so we don't have to reason who gets which packet
+	r := router.NewR(t, myControl, relayControl, theirControl)
+	defer r.RenderFlow()
+
+	// Start the servers
+	myControl.Start()
+	relayControl.Start()
+	theirControl.Start()
+
+	t.Log("Trigger a handshake from me to them via the relay")
+	myControl.InjectTunUDPPacket(theirVpnIpNet.IP, 80, 80, []byte("Hi from me"))
+
+	p := r.RouteForAllUntilTxTun(theirControl)
+	r.Log("Assert the tunnel works")
+	assertUdpPacket(t, []byte("Hi from me"), p, myVpnIpNet.IP, theirVpnIpNet.IP, 80, 80)
+	r.RenderHostmaps("working hostmaps", myControl, relayControl, theirControl)
+
+	// When I update the certificate for the relay, both me and them will have 2 host infos for the relay,
+	// and the main host infos will not have any relay state to handle the me<->relay<->them tunnel.
+	r.Log("Renew relay certificate and spin until me and them sees it")
+	_, _, myNextPrivKey, myNextPEM := newTestCert(ca, caKey, "relay", time.Now(), time.Now().Add(5*time.Minute), relayVpnIpNet, nil, []string{"new group"})
+
+	caB, err := ca.MarshalToPEM()
+	if err != nil {
+		panic(err)
+	}
+
+	relayConfig.Settings["pki"] = m{
+		"ca":   string(caB),
+		"cert": string(myNextPEM),
+		"key":  string(myNextPrivKey),
+	}
+	rc, err := yaml.Marshal(relayConfig.Settings)
+	assert.NoError(t, err)
+	relayConfig.ReloadConfigString(string(rc))
+
+	for {
+		r.Log("Assert the tunnel works between myVpnIpNet and relayVpnIpNet")
+		assertTunnel(t, myVpnIpNet.IP, relayVpnIpNet.IP, myControl, relayControl, r)
+		c := myControl.GetHostInfoByVpnIp(iputil.Ip2VpnIp(relayVpnIpNet.IP), false)
+		if len(c.Cert.Details.Groups) != 0 {
+			// We have a new certificate now
+			r.Log("Certificate between my and relay is updated!")
+			break
+		}
+
+		time.Sleep(time.Second)
+	}
+
+	for {
+		r.Log("Assert the tunnel works between theirVpnIpNet and relayVpnIpNet")
+		assertTunnel(t, theirVpnIpNet.IP, relayVpnIpNet.IP, theirControl, relayControl, r)
+		c := theirControl.GetHostInfoByVpnIp(iputil.Ip2VpnIp(relayVpnIpNet.IP), false)
+		if len(c.Cert.Details.Groups) != 0 {
+			// We have a new certificate now
+			r.Log("Certificate between their and relay is updated!")
+			break
+		}
+
+		time.Sleep(time.Second)
+	}
+
+	r.Log("Assert the relay tunnel still works")
+	assertTunnel(t, theirVpnIpNet.IP, myVpnIpNet.IP, theirControl, myControl, r)
+	r.RenderHostmaps("working hostmaps", myControl, relayControl, theirControl)
+	// We should have two hostinfos on all sides
+	for len(myControl.GetHostmap().Indexes) != 2 {
+		t.Logf("Waiting for myControl hostinfos (%v != 2) to get cleaned up from lack of use...", len(myControl.GetHostmap().Indexes))
+		r.Log("Assert the relay tunnel still works")
+		assertTunnel(t, theirVpnIpNet.IP, myVpnIpNet.IP, theirControl, myControl, r)
+		r.Log("yupitdoes")
+		time.Sleep(time.Second)
+	}
+	t.Logf("myControl hostinfos got cleaned up!")
+	for len(theirControl.GetHostmap().Indexes) != 2 {
+		t.Logf("Waiting for theirControl hostinfos (%v != 2) to get cleaned up from lack of use...", len(theirControl.GetHostmap().Indexes))
+		r.Log("Assert the relay tunnel still works")
+		assertTunnel(t, theirVpnIpNet.IP, myVpnIpNet.IP, theirControl, myControl, r)
+		r.Log("yupitdoes")
+		time.Sleep(time.Second)
+	}
+	t.Logf("theirControl hostinfos got cleaned up!")
+	for len(relayControl.GetHostmap().Indexes) != 2 {
+		t.Logf("Waiting for relayControl hostinfos (%v != 2) to get cleaned up from lack of use...", len(relayControl.GetHostmap().Indexes))
+		r.Log("Assert the relay tunnel still works")
+		assertTunnel(t, theirVpnIpNet.IP, myVpnIpNet.IP, theirControl, myControl, r)
+		r.Log("yupitdoes")
+		time.Sleep(time.Second)
+	}
+	t.Logf("relayControl hostinfos got cleaned up!")
+}
+
 func TestRehandshaking(t *testing.T) {
 	ca, _, caKey, _ := newTestCaCert(time.Now(), time.Now().Add(10*time.Minute), []*net.IPNet{}, []*net.IPNet{}, []string{})
 	myControl, myVpnIpNet, myUdpAddr, myConfig := newSimpleServer(ca, caKey, "me  ", net.IP{10, 0, 0, 2}, nil)
diff --git a/relay_manager.go b/relay_manager.go
index 2241353..7aa06cc 100644
--- a/relay_manager.go
+++ b/relay_manager.go
@@ -179,6 +179,12 @@ func (rm *relayManager) handleCreateRelayRequest(h *HostInfo, f *Interface, m *N
 		"vpnIp":               h.vpnIp})
 
 	logMsg.Info("handleCreateRelayRequest")
+	// Is the source of the relay me? This should never happen, but did happen due to
+	// an issue migrating relays over to newly re-handshaked host info objects.
+	if from == f.myVpnIp {
+		logMsg.WithField("myIP", f.myVpnIp).Error("Discarding relay request from myself")
+		return
+	}
 	// Is the target of the relay me?
 	if target == f.myVpnIp {
 		existingRelay, ok := h.relayState.QueryRelayForByIp(from)